We live in a society that is more excepting of casual sex than ever before. If you have been in an open relationship for some time you may have enjoyed it in the past. As some people age or when they start changing a bit they start to want something new. It can be confusing when you have always been accepting of the open relationship and suddenly it isn’t as easy to share the person you care about. What do you do, where do you go from here?
If you feel as though you no longer want an open relationship you need to really stop and examine why. Why have your feelings changed? Do you not feel as secure as you once did? Has your partner been treating you differently? Do you just want to take the relationship to a whole new level? Getting to the bottom of the change in attitude is important because it will allow you to examine what has changed in the relationship to have you desiring a change. It will also allow you to determine if your relationship is worth trying to change or save.
Once you examine why you want to close your open relationship this is the time for you to talk to your partner. Tell them how you are feeling and also tell them why you are feeling this way. It is important for you not to just express what you want to change, but why.
Before you talk to your partner you need to determine if you are willing to negotiate. Do you want to close the relationship or not have a relationship at all? Are you willing to just stop seeing other people but you’re fine with your partner continuing to see others? Being able to determine the way you feel and what you are and are not willing to deal with so you can put everything on the table.
When you talk to your partner about closing your open relationship you need to be prepared for a wide variety of possible responses. Your partner may be angry, confused, hurt, or just at a loss for why you are coming to them with a change of mind. You may need to get them a few hours or a few days to process what you have told them for them to come up with any real response.
You need to be prepared for the fact that the relationship will be over if you don’t want to be in an open relationship anymore and your partner does. If you are sure that you don’t want to be a part of this relationship if it is open anymore, than you shouldn’t compromise if your partner does not see things in the same way. It can be difficult, but you need to be true to yourself.